Dating advice

[Tom Duke]

Hey there y’all, kinda thought this might be a good topic to ask here. But I’m wondering what advice. If any, y’all could give me on dating.. 

Currently single as a Pringle. But I’m young yet too, just thought I’d ask. 

[RogerDuke]

This could be an interesting thread. I doubt anybody has ever started a thread like this before on the HazzardNet. The first bit of advice I would give is to not take advice about romance from an internet forum. But if you do, make sure it's this one....LOL

I don't even know where to start. Advice can be different depending on your age and circumstances but some things are universal regardless of any variables. One is to be honest with yourself. That's probably the most important one. I'll continue later if this thread takes off. I'm sure some folks might avoid this subject and others may want to give advice. It will be interesting to see how this goes. 

[Hobie Hartkins]

my advice.....DON'T DO IT!!! It's like smoking....don't even start!! Studies have shown that dating leads to marriage and that marriage,  in this country, is the leading cause of divorce! ( Don't believe me?? Think on this!.....100% of the people you know  that are divorced, at one time, were married! It's the  2nd biggest mistake I ever made in my life!

[RogerDuke]

I married too young and it didn't last. But my second wife and I are are closing in on 30 years of marriage and still deeply in love. So I guess Hobie is right. You are flipping a coin. That's why it's not something you should rush into....even if you can tell on the first date that it's the person you want to be with forever. You need at least a year together before proposing. And even that is no guarantee of long term success if you marry. 

[Tom Duke]

My heart goes out to you Hobie.. Divorce is quite prevalent unfortunately, my family knows that one all to well with a brother of mine. Fact is, he had been with her a while. Even had kids, but she got wandering on the other side of the fence, thinking the grass was greener…

Long story short, even the most solid marriages can have cracks by times.. I grew up with them dating when I was a baby, and then getting married when I was a kid. 

Anywho. 

Well I’ve taken an interesting approach so far, I’m not really sure at the moment so I’m just taking it easy, when I was at my local Boars Nest this week I did start an interesting conversation with a lady over a pool table, kinda scoped out the situation and bought her a beer too. 
 

But yeah, it’s little interactions like that, that I’m starting out with. See who clicks and who vibes. Dating almost seems a lot like fishin, though sometimes it’s the ladies that reel us in ain’t it? 

[Tom Duke]

3 hours ago, RogerDuke said:

I married too young and it didn't last. But my second wife and I are are closing in on 30 years of marriage and still deeply in love. So I guess Hobie is right. You are flipping a coin. That's why it's not something you should rush into....even if you can tell on the first date that it's the person you want to be with forever. You need at least a year together before proposing. And even that is no guarantee of long term success if you marry. 

That is some Uncle Jesse style wisdom there Roger, l appreciate it. And it’s true what you say too.

I’m not the type to fall that easily anymore, I was as a teenager. Fast and furious, but these days I take it a tad slower. (Age 22, soon to be 23) 

[RogerDuke]

I was wondering how old you were. I only have one biological grandchild and he's 23. He still hasn't had a long term relationship but I'm sure that will change. He doesn't come to grandpa for advice about women. I give it to him anyways because that's my job...LOL 

[RogerDuke]

14 hours ago, Tom Duke said:

That is some Uncle Jesse style wisdom there Roger, l appreciate it. And it’s true what you say too.

I’m not the type to fall that easily anymore, I was as a teenager. Fast and furious, but these days I take it a tad slower. (Age 22, soon to be 23) 

In case you don't know we only get a limited number of reactions. I'd give this a like if I had one left. 

[Hobie Hartkins]

22 hours ago, RogerDuke said:

I married too young and it didn't last. But my second wife and I are are closing in on 30 years of marriage and still deeply in love. So I guess Hobie is right. You are flipping a coin. That's why it's not something you should rush into....even if you can tell on the first date that it's the person you want to be with forever. You need at least a year together before proposing. And even that is no guarantee of long term success if you marry. 

tell me about it! It took me 2-3 yrs. and I STILL wish I'd never done it!  One day soon you'll probably hear me singing that country song, " I'm goin' through the Big D and I don't mean Dallas! "  

[Hobie Hartkins]

19 hours ago, Tom Duke said:

That is some Uncle Jesse style wisdom there Roger, l appreciate it. And it’s true what you say too.

I’m not the type to fall that easily anymore, I was as a teenager. Fast and furious, but these days I take it a tad slower. (Age 22, soon to be 23) 

Believe me......you don't see it now but you will in 10 yrs. .......you're still a child! Wait for a while  ( about 10 yrs. as I say) and it will all become clear to you!   Right now you're still in 1st gear and time is crawling......you're about to hit 2nd gear and tomorrow you will be 29! When you get to be 32-33.....not the next day but later on in the day, you will be 40! And the time, like the velocity of a falling object, goes faster and faster as you age. The further it goes, the faster it goes!

[Tom Duke]

7 hours ago, RogerDuke said:

In case you don't know we only get a limited number of reactions. I'd give this a like if I had one left. 

Bless you Roger, how many reactions do y’all get? 

[Hobie Hartkins]

Just now, Tom Duke said:

Bless you Roger, how many reactions do y’all get? 

I'm not dure myself but it's not that many.....especially when there's a lot of back/forth posting going on.

[Meadowmufn]

My parents were married 67 years, just a few months shy of 68 years when dad passed. They got married at 19 (mom) and 21 (dad). I've been married almost 23 years. My oldest sister celebrates anniversary #32 this year and my other sister will celebrate #26 later this year. So, my advice would be to find someone who's been married a long time and get advice from them! Because whatever my mom and dad were doing right, it seemed to rub off on us kids.

My mom always told me that the key to a long marriage was.... 2 tv sets.  And for the record, all of us kids have more than 1 tv set.